There’s a lot of talk right now about the social network wars. Google Plus is better than Facebook. I’m not leaving Facebook, I have what I need right here. There are also many social networks that aren’t participating in the “war” directly. They are simply out there offering an alternative to the mainstream sites like Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIN, and now the latest, Google plus. People on Google Plus are saying they like it better than Facebook. People on Facebook are saying they might want to switch to Google Plus because they don’t like the changes Facebook is making. Then people are saying they have no reason to switch and then there are those who are threatening to leave this all alone, close their accounts and go back to a “simple” life! Bye and good luck with that. It’s sort of like saying I am going to leave the future because I don’t like it, instead of saying, “my future is mine and I am going to make it the best experience I can have.” Like it or not, social media has become and will continue to be a HUGE part of how we communicate with one another.

So what is the right answer for YOU?

One thing’s for sure, there is no one universally correct answer. Perhaps I can offer you something to think about here though. My thoughts are based on what many of us read, discuss and seem to agree on. We all make our own experience. We have to take responsibility for everything that happens to us, even the bad things. No that doesn’t mean we cause bad things to happen to us, but we do allow them to happen, or worse we allow them to continue after we’ve recognized them. So if I have to take responsibility for my life and that means every area of my life it means that when I don’t like something.. when something that I perceive as bad is happening then it is my responsibility to stand up and do something about it. Not doing something about it, whether we like to admit it or not is the EXACT same thing as endorsing the behavior. It’s like telling someone, “you know what, I like when you hit me so please keep hitting me because if I wanted you to stop I would tell you to stop.” So no it is not your fault if you are in an abusive relationship but it IS your fault if you don’t do something about it.

So how do we apply this principal in Social Media? Well let’s think for a minute about what social media is REALLY all about. It’s about connecting with people, right? That’s why we call it “Social” so if that is the case then instead of complaining about the platform I should spend my time figuring out how I am going to use it to connect with people. Google Plus and Facebook are both putting tools in our tool box right now. They are competing to offer “better” tools so we will choose one over the other, perhaps. Then again maybe neither one of them cares what we do with the other as long as we choose THEIRS.

So what do you think? Are you responsible for the experience you create for yourself in social media? If so then does the platform matter or can you create your universe working with the tools that are offered by these platforms, all of which are GREAT especially when you consider that they don’t cost you a dime!

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