When you find yourself annoyed by someone else, focus on you. There is usually some part of them that reminds us of something that we don’t like about ourselves. Either that, or something about them makes us feel threatened by them. Where does this affect you? Your pride? Your ambitions? Your financial security? We can look at someone else who receives a lot of praise form others and think, “why?” Don’t others see what I see? The person is not that special. They’re not remarkable? Why are they getting this attention? If it’s the attention part that bothers us, then it may be the area of pride in which it affects you.
Focus on you.
My favorite analogy is the swimmer in a lap race. When you slow down, or worse, stop to see what the person in the lane next to you is doing, you’ve just lost. You’ve lost focus.
Forget about what the person in the lane next to you is doing. Just focus on you. Focus on the relationships that make you feel good. Move on quickly from the ones that don’t, or no longer do.
The more you focus on you, and practice this daily, the less you’ll find you need to be concerned with what anyone else is doing. Then you experience the true freedom that comes with not being imprisoned by your feelings about others. Then you get to choose exactly whom you’re surrounded by and when. Then you’re free.